Monday, October 15, 2012

90% of everything


This morning started out in a rather odd way.  I woke up for no apparent reason, but then I heard my phone make a noise (fearful that it was Massimo, I didn’t look at it right away), and since it was dark outside I just wanted to go back to sleep! I got up and went to the bathroom, laid back down, and looked at my phone!  It was my momma wishing me luck on my first day and telling me that Chili was scared of the storm (which I was not crazy about the storm WE had here last night either, because this is when I discovered that I have no flashlight!).  However, I was still assuming that it was early in the morning, so I turned my sound machine app back on and tried to go back to sleep!  As I laid there, I decided that I needed to set my alarm for 6:20, instead of 6:30, only to turn my phone on and see that it was 6:23.  Fabulous! ::sense the sarcasm:: 

Now, when I get up, the first thing I usually do is eat breakfast.  Today however, because I had nooo idea how long it would be until I was able to eat something other than a snack bar, I started with make up! It was difficult to break routine, but it worked out well!  I ended up with 3 tostate this morning (of course one had to have nutella) and a caffe cup full of coffee yogurt and the last of my almond milk.  I should confess that I had my outfit picked out for the first day of school since before I ever even left the States (that sounds funny).  I decided to wear my blue/white striped dress that I bought because I loved April’s that she bought!  I also thought it was cute with my brown sandals, and I knew I could wear my brown cardigan if needed (which it was early this morning).  Once I was dressed I double checked my purse and then headed downstairs to wait on Virginia.
I was able to talk to my momma for a minute before Virginia came.  I do really like Virginia.  This is only the second time I have been able to see her in person, but she is so loving and friendly.  As we drove to school we talked about different things and she talked about me riding the bus tomorrow and said she would show me the stop and such.  As we approached the school, I reached into my purse to silence my phone, and she looked at me like I was strange; I told her what I was doing, and she said, "no need.  I answer mine, and if it is school related then I talk, but if not, then I hang up!"  Wha??? Leave my phone on??  When we arrived at school, I was privy to what I already knew was going to be a spectacular view of the mountains and it did NOT disappoint.  The sun was shining through the clouds and it was still not fully risen; it was so beautiful. 
Still unsure of what I was going to be doing today, I got out of the car and started following Virginia into the school; we encountered a few people and she reassured them that I understood Italian, which made me nervous and of course then I struggled to understand.  We soon ran into Francesca and it was good to see a familiar/friendly face!  Once Virginia had given me a brief tour, and we had gone to the teachers’ room for her to sign in (where I met others whose names I do NOT remember), the bell rang signaling that the students would enter the building.  

**Side story:  When we arrived at school, Virginia began telling me about the students’ protests.  She said that it used to be in November, but now happens throughout the month of October; every October.  She said that the students claim to be protesting against the government; because, in her words, everyone in Italy dislikes the government.  However, she does not buy this reasoning and believes that the students are just being lazy and trying to get out of school.  The doors have to stay locked until they are allowed to enter because they do not want them to “occupy” the school; as they have done in the past.  She said that it is never violent, but rather they want to come to school and force the teachers to leave.  She then asked me if this was done in the U.S.  I said that I had never heard of it being done and that I could not imagine this being acceptable AT ALL!!!!  She asked if I thought we would be arrested; all I could say was, “maybe??”  It is interesting though.  

Once we made our way through the NOISY hallways and into her classroom, I was becoming a bit nervous.  She had explained to me that the students would probably be a bit timid or quiet because they would be nervous, but that at the other half of the school (a technical type school is attached) the students would be rude, crude, and loud (and potentially give unwanted looks).  I had already encountered some of these “looks” she was referring to, and of course she would whisper, “they are looking at you!”  So we entered the classroom, and I was so nervous as I realized that I am no longer the student; though this mindset would quickly change.  Virginia introduced me to her students and had them ask me a few questions, though we only made it as far as what my name was, how old I am, and where am I from.  The topic was soon changed and Virginia was off to the races.  

1st class: This will be the class that I am in regularly, and I am glad!  There were these two girls sitting at the front of the class and one kept looking at me and smiling.  I would catch her out of the corner of my eye looking at me and just smiling.  Not wanting to embarrass her by letting her know that I saw her every time, I tried to ignore it.  However, many times I smiled at her and tried to convey that I was happy to be there (which I was).  I think she is going to be one of my favorites (1. Sits in the front…me 2. Was very attentive  3. Seemed very smart and had done her homework 4. SUPER friendly and smiley!! 5. Looked so sweet and I just wanted to hug her for being so friendly).  There were some other girls that were sweet and smiley as well, and just in the two hours I spent with them, I can already tell who is driven in the school work and who is not. There was also a girl that bore a striking resemblance to Selena Gomez (Disney channel start girl). She had to reprimand some of the boys (who she informed me that they call the 3 Musketeers) for not doing their work correctly (which I’ll get to later).  There were some girls too that had not done it correctly.  However, there were a few girls who were on top of things; I love them already!  It seemed like a good mix of abilities and mix of students who care and those who do not.  I did have to sympathize with some of them who were struggling to come up with the words; I know that in my Italian conversation class at UA I was the quiet one who never spoke unless spoken to because I was terrified of getting it wrong or of not knowing the vocabulary (Hi, I’m Elyse…or Elisa…and I am a perfectionist).  The content of the class period was not at all what I had anticipated.  They are talking about the Celtic, um, people?  Is that how I would say it?  Anyway, the students had been broken up into groups to do research and then present some information (this is where the distinction was made between the driven, and the non driven).  From there they went into the Iron Age and the ages that precede that and the Medieval period and about the Roman Empire and the Fertile Crescent and the Rosetta Stone and how this all ties into the Chronology of Human Civilization and Mesopotamia.  I’m telling you…it was ALL OVER THE PLACE!! I had a hard time following it, but I had whipped out my little notebook and was taking notes as if I were the student.  Virginia said I could ask questions and stuff, but I don’t know that I ever learned some of that stuff; which she later acknowledged that we might not learn all of this.  She told them that learning about the Celtic people was important because it was the origin of the English language and that you cannot learn a language without learning its origins; and reinforced the point with, “can you learn Italian if you know nothing about the Romans??”   

Thoughts after first class: I DO NOT KNOW HOW TO BE THE TEACHER AND NOT THE STUDENT!!  I found myself sitting there thinking, “how do I do this? I need to be taking notes because I need to learn about this; I need to know these things!  I want to learn!! Wait, I’m supposed to be paying attention to their grammar and pronunciation (per Virginia’s request), and she wants me to ask them questions.  I can’t…because I am too busy learning and playing my role as the…s.t.u.d.e.n.t…ooooohhhh wait…I’m not the student!?!? It was a very eye opening moment for me there; one that cannot truly be conveyed in writing; though I am trying.   **more thoughts about students/the school in general will come later (all at once).  

After this first class, which lasted two hours, Virginia said that she had to go straight to the other class, but I could go to the bar (yes, there is a bar for snacks and coffee) down stairs if I wanted of she could send a student to get what I wanted when they went to get what she wanted. Before we could finish that discussion, I finally met my first, real live Marcello.  He is the P.E. teacher and he said that his son was studying in Vermont, but that his son should teach me Itailan and I should teach him English; well sir, is your son’s name Marcello and is he here or in Vermont; this would totally be a case of loving that a person is named after their dad. Anyway, so then Virginia asked me what I wanted from the bar. I just wanted to go to the bathroom; which I had to get the “keeper of the keys” lady (ahhh Hagrid) to open the teachers’ bathroom.  Again, very weird moment to be the teacher and not the student.  When I got in there (through like 3 doors), I called my mom immediately!  I had to tell her about how LOUD the school is all of the time; it was so distracting (more later).  Then I went to the second class where Virginia was, and a student soon brought us our snacks.  I did not want coffee, so I had a fruit juice (which I think was blood orange juice.. Succa orancia rossa…I think) and a brioche (sweet bread with nutella in the middle).  I ate very little of the brioche, but did eat the parts with Nutella, and had most of the juice.  I had already eaten my snack bar, so I was not that hungry.  

2nd Class: This class asked me a lot more questions.  They asked me about where I was from; how old I am; what are my hobbies; did I like Cosenza etc.  Then Virginia took over and was talking to them about things they had covered in class.  They talked a bit about “false friends”, which are words in the two languages that look alike, or sound alike, but actually have very different meanings.  This class was cut short by the students break; this is when they went to the bar and brought back snacks and more rowdiness. During this time, Virginia enlisted their help with the bus system for me; happy to say I understood about 95% of what they said (in Italian).  Virginia also took this time to talk to me some more.  She told me that she is 58, which I had not expected.  She said that I should meet her son and girlfriend very soon and maybe they have some people my age I could hang out with (her son is 27).  We talked about how her husband is a doctor and if I need anything that I am to call her and she will talk to him or I can come see him (what a random blessing!).  Even after the break, this class didn’t last very long.  It seemed like I blinked and it was over with.  

At this point Virginia and I moved on to the last and final class.   We had to go further upstairs and as we approached the steps we saw all of these boys peeking down the staircase and Virginia said, “They are looking for you!”  Sure enough, when they knew that we saw them, they took off running to the class.  When we walked in, and they all stand up by the way, she told them that they could sit and then scolded the boys for doing “what you were doing”!  I was excited to see that this class had an interactive white board thing (any teachers reading this and are in disbelief that I don’t know the name…remember that I work with little children & babies) and a computer with internet access!

3rd Class:  I really liked this class.  Most of the students seem to care about what was going on and they had really good English skills.   Virginia let them ask me a lot more questions that she had done in the other classes.  They added questions like, “do you like our school?  Is it different than your high school?  How long will you be in Cosenza?, etc”.  Virginia had requested that they show me warm and welcoming faces and ask questions and carry on the tradition of being kind, friendly, Southern Italians, and so when I said I was from the South, I explained that we too carry a tradition of being welcoming and it is what we call, “Southern Hospitality”!  So then she talked to them about that similarity.  When they asked me about my high school I explained that we (students) change classes, we are not allowed to bring backpacks into the classrooms, we have lockers, and we go for a longer amount of time each day, but fewer days.  One sweet girl said she was fascinated by the locker idea and had me explain; so I explained the combination lock, that we got a new locker each year, and that we often decorate the insides of the locker.  They had me talk about why we don’t carry our backpacks into class and we discussed the safety issues, which she attributed to there being more people to regulate in America than in Italy (i.e. more students).  They talked for a minute about whether they had heard of school shootings and such; great, this is what we are known for (Lilla had also mentioned it the day before).  There were two sweet girls in the front of the class and they could have easily been placed in American high school; every once in a while I would catch them whispering and snickering to each other and seemingly gossiping about something.  In this class especially I could see how there are probably some “clicks” or certain groups of students.  It was interesting to start noting some of the differences and similarities. When the bell rang, Virginia gave them some homework (writing some different types of sentences about Halloween), and Marcello came to take them to P.E.  Virginia first made them show respect by standing and saying goodbye.  

Thoughts about the school experience overall:
1.      It is SO loud that I was constantly distracted.  It did not matter if the door was closed or not.  The students in the hallways at various times and in other classrooms were SO LOUD that I caught myself looking around out of distraction and it was also keeping me from hearing the students in the class speaking.  This would be so incredibly unacceptable at home.  I feel like Ms. Baker’s head would have exploded today; and rightfully so.  *For those who don’t know, that was my Principal!

2.      There did not seem to be a dress code.  There were girls with their shoulders showing.  One girl had on a “Sex and the City” t-shirt, but really all I could see throughout class was, “SEX”.  It made me laugh because once again that would NEVER fly in the US.  However, I heard the other day that a student couldn’t wear a certain jersey to a school in the US; I think we’ve taken it a bit too far!  

3.      They do not have lockers or anything.  The hallways are very plain and it is very odd.  The classrooms are also very plain because the teachers rotate classrooms, offering no opportunity to personalize anything.  I suppose there could be advantages to this, but I would want to personalize my space.  Their only personal space is a little safe type locker in the teacher room, but otherwise they just take stuff with them to the class (same for students).  
4.      Other than the room with the interactive white board thing, they use little green chalkboards; the kind that flip over!  WHOA…crazy!  

5.      Two public busses show up just before 1:00 to take students home, but so do parents. 
6.      The students notebooks are called “copybooks”
7.      The teachers’ bathrooms are locked.  Then, you go through one door and there are separate rooms for men and women (another closed door, but no key needed), and then there are “rooms” for each “stall”. 
8.      Personally, it seemed rather unstructured for me.  The way they do not have certain classes every day and some days they have them 2 hours and others for only 1 hour.  They get their homework, but it might be 4 days before they see that teacher again.  The noise would keep me from learning; anyone with ADD or ADHD would NEVER survive.  The environment was a bit crazy and would not have been conducive to my learning style(s).  However, it seems to work for them, so I suppose I will just have to adjust.  

After classes were finished, Virginia took me to see the Headmistress, which they keep calling, “presidente”.  This poor woman could not focus for one minute without being interrupted.  Virginia ran into Francesca and asked for her, “class timetable”, which is their schedule.  Like I said, it is ALL over the place so they have to have it written down and carry it with them.  Then they called the 4th teacher that they wanted me to work with; a man who had lived in Chicago for a few years.  Trying to work out which classes I could be in and when caused them to start arguing.  They have to respect that I have another school to work at, and Virginia agreed that I should not work on Saturdays (thank goodness).  They begin to argue over who said what and how it was supposed to be; they started out “discussing” it in English, but quickly moved to Italian; again, I understood about 90% of what they said, which made it awkward, but they didn’t seem to care (Headmistress was not present for this).  They were saying that Virginia had misled them; the argument mainly centered around the fact that the Headmistress/Viringia/supposedly Fulbright said I had to be in at least a 3rd level class.  The man, Angelino, worked in the technical school with Francesca and his 3rd level classes are only 2 hours a week (which I am supposed to spend 2 hours a week in 4 classes at each school…MAXIMUM…an important concept for later); thus, he did not want me to take up that time.  He asked if I had a plan already; um, no!  He also explained that his upper level classes focus on their technical thing (e.g. engineering), and their conversation stuff is only on that; thus rendering me useless…by my own admission, not his until after I’d said it!  So, they decided that his two 2nd level classes on tourism would work; this was later nixed by the headmistress.  We had my schedule all worked out, but it soon fell apart.  The headmistress said, “NO, absolutely not” to the 2nd level classes.  She was in and out this whole time; Virginia and Francesca talked to random people who called on her phone; it was crazy!  I explained to Virginia that I only had to work a minimum of 6 hours, so if there were no classes available, then it was okay because we had easily worked out 6 hours!  I was trying to make this easier for them, knowing that I still had to do this at another school.  She seemed happy about that and said she would approach the Headmistress with it.  

When Virginia and I were alone at one point, I took the opportunity to talk to her about the Reggio Emilia conference.  Before I could even finish my rehearsed speech about how important it is to me and everything I have studied in school (all’universita), and it was a once-in-a-lifetime experience she said, “You MUST go! This is so important.  That area is known for their overall education. Have you looked at hotels?  You must ask me first because I know of some good ones!”  WHEW! What a relief! She told me to register TODAY to guarantee my place!  WHAT A RELIEF!!! I was so excited to have this under my belt and I was so excited that I could not stop smiling and literally almost jumped out of my chair from excitement.  
After two weird hardcandies with soft stuff inside them, some complicated things almost worked out, and Virginia had missed lunch with her husband, we were finally leaving. Oh, she had also called in a knowledgeable teacher to further explain the buses to me (and I think I understood about 97% of what he said!!).  So, we were feeling more confident about what I needed to do! She approached the Headmistress about the 6 hours and she said, “Absolutely NOT! We have an American and we are going to follow the rules and we have to use her as much as possible!”  Shot down!  So, I suggested that I spend an additional hour with Virginia and Lilla on the days that I am already at their school.  She said she would discuss it with them tomorrow.  I also tried to talk to her about doing lessons more focused on my interests; the students interests; my culture; where I am from; ideas that I have gotten from other Fulbright ETA’s blogs; etc.  I am so desperate to do FUN things with them, like The South vs. Southern Italy; Football (roll tide) vs. soccer; our Holidays (& cooking); NYC; things that are fun and not from their textbooks, but rather things that only I can teach them.  Their English is more focused on British stuff and they even all have slight British accents (especially Francesca) when they are speaking in English; some students have it too!  I want to bring my culture to them…not expand on text book subjects that I am not familiar with!  It was somewhat disheartening, and I was fighting the feeling of frustration.  Virginia reassured me that I would never be doing grammar lessons (she said that she understood that explaining your own language is hard; that she could never explain how to learn/speak Italian and the grammar…).  I am still worried that I wont get to do the fun things like the other ETA’s from years past.  I know that one of my downfalls is I always want things to go the way I imagine, but this is one that I imagined because it was reality for most!  

On our way out, Virginia was stopped by the French teacher, but I did not follow what they were saying.  When I asked to go to the bathroom, Virginia said she had to go too.  Then she proceeded to tell me how the French teacher was trying to make her do extra work that was not her responsibility.  Virginia told me about it for the next 10 minutes; I was a bit nervous having her tell me these things! 
On the way to my apartment she drove part of the bus route to make sure I knew where it would go and where to get off near the school.  Then she drove me home.  We talked about random things; also earlier that day she had asked me if I looked like my mom or dad (and I explained the pictures that my momma has of us at different ages and how we look exactly the same, except the black and white of her pictures).  When Virginia was dropping me off she gave me the kisses and hugs and was touching my face and telling me how she wanted to host me at her home very soon!  She was so loving and affectionate; my kind of person. 
 UNTIL…..UNTIL SHE TOUCHED THE UNDER PART OF MY CHIN! She did this like motion like you grab someone’s chin and tell them they are cute or something…but she did not grab my chin, it was that under part of my chin!  I had to fight the urge to freak out!  **this will only make sense to people whom I’ve explained it to.  Holly knows…April know…I’m pretty sure Erin knows!  When I opened my phone, I saw that I had a missed call from Luca; I’m afraid he will think I am avoiding him; which I am NOT!  

Anyway, so she dropped me off and I went back to my apartment, ate lunch (ham sandwich and some leftover veggies), changed clothes, packed my computer bag, and reluctantly was off to the hotel to use the internet.  I was convinced that there was no way Massimo could be there that early because he had been at work last night (and would have been there this morning).  However, I barely peeked inside when I got there and he was there; so I just went straight to my outside table.  He did eventually come out and ask if I was feeling better; so he did get the horrible look on my face last night intended to imply that I was in a bad mood and didn’t want to be bothered.  

So, internet time was good!  I was able to talk to April for a little over an hour, which was great!  I talked to Mrs. Malissa for a few minutes; always a treat to hear her sweet voice!  I skyped with my daddy and that was good because I hadn’t seen him as much this weekend!  I updated my blog, put some pictures on facebook, answered a few emails, downloaded the 7 documents from Fulbright regarding our Rome trip, and THEN…then I registered for the Reggio Emilia conference!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! OH MY GOSH…SO SO SO SO SO SO SO SO SO SO SO SO SO SO SO SO SO SO SO SO SO SO SO SO SO SO SO SO SO SO SO SO excited…I could keep going, but I’ll spare those who have read up to this point.  Words cannot describe how excited I am about getting to go to this amazing conference and the opportunity to visit the infant/preschools of Reggio Emilia!  My savings will take a bit of a hit, but it will be beyond worth it!  To know that it will be valuable to my future and that I can go home and share it with so many people who are passionate about these things as well; well, that makes it worth EVERY PENNY! So excited!! So, given that my stuff is accepted and such (which I have no reason to believe it wont be), I will be spending a week in Reggio Emilia in February!  Did I mention that I am excited?!?!?  Reggio….Emilia…AH! 

Once I’d spent a little over two hours using the internet (Massimo was gone at this point and did not speak to me other than that one time…I never even saw him leave; I just saw the nice lady show up), I headed back to my apartment.  I had to drop off my computer bag and then go to the grocery store.  As I was walking I talked to my momma and then returned Lilla’s phone call.  She was hoping I could do my family lesson tomorrow.  I explained that I was to be with Francesca at 9 tomorrow morning; she said, “okay you do it at 8!”  I had to tell her that I did not come home and do the presentation last night because we had discussed not doing it this week; I am not a slacker!! I also told her that I would be at school Wednesday, but then not until after Rome.  I hung up and no sooner had I hung up than I realized that I had just walked past Francesca.  I stopped her and spoke to her!  We talked for a minute and then parted ways!  

At the grocery store I bought yogurt, eggs, some lunch meat, some small wheat rolls, and some rice cakes.  I am struggling to find “snacks” like I would have at home.  I stopped and bought a small “planner” so that I could write things down, only to discover when I got home that it is only for 2013; a lot of help that is!  When I got home, I was hungrier than I had anticipated.  So, I made veggies (my now regular combo of carrots, tomatoes, & white zucchini cooked in olive oil.  I made farfalle (APRIL!) with this Barilla calabrese sauce (which turned out to be spicier than I anticipated…making it truly Calabrian).  I also ate half of one of my wheat rolls (with my good Ernesto olive oil).
It was a WONDERFUL dinner!  Also, before I ate, I boiled some eggs; without a timer I was unsure of how they would turn out.  It should also be noted that this is the FIRST time I’ve ever boiled my own eggs.  Don’t judge!!  After I ate I sat down to write my blog.  At 8:30 I went to write and watch Gilmore Girls and I had one of my boiled eggs.  I was SUCCESSFUL…the inside was perfectly cooked and so I put some pepper on it and enjoyed my seemingly small victory!  
The rest of my night was spent washing clothes, washing dishes, and getting ready for tomorrow (i.e. checking the bus “times”, picking out something to wear, etc.).  Taking a shower is one of my least favorite things to do during the day!  This seems odd, but it is because I freeze half of the time I am in the shower, and then when I get out…it is impossible to stay warm!!  

I also started working on Lilla’s powerpoint; of my family!  I’ll put more work into it starting tomorrow!! 
Welp, 2 weeks down!!!  This week will probably fly by and then next Tuesday morning I am off to Rome until that Saturday (hoping to spend most of Saturday there as well!). 

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